Makin' Noise

Dave of Mr 5.25 left me a nice comment regarding this post, which prompted me to go check out his page. While there, I read his post about getting a little nookie from the wife, and how he wishes she'd be more vocal. Specifically, that he'd like to hear how she was feeling when she was feeling it.

I have heard many people (the majority of which are men) say the same thing. I don't know why, but it really surprises me to find out that so many people make little or no noise - even while cumming. I've heard tales of women that make a barely audible "mmm" or "ahh" while cumming - sometimes even less. Many times, leaving their partners wondering (and some have to ask) whether or not they came. Why is this? Why stifle? Is it that they don't feel the need to be loud? Are they shy? Uncomfortable? Have they been taught to be quiet or silent? If so, by whom? Aren't they having any fun? Is it that it's not good? Do they feel noise is unwarranted?

I'm really curious about this. I myself find it nearly impossible to keep quiet. I let it all hang out there - moaning, screaming, gasping for air in the loudest possible manner. I don't TRY to be this way - it's just what happens naturally and I don't surpress it. I like what my partner is doing and does, and I let him/her to know it in the most vocal way possible. Hell, half the time I have to grab a pillow and shove it in my face, lest the neighbors be offended. (Apartment living sucks that way - I don't think it's fair to shove it in the neighbors' face that I'm having great sex - I NEVER hear them.)

I guess I just feel like that's the clearest signal to give as to whether or not I'm enjoying what's happening. To me, my noise and breathing are easy for my partner to tune in on, and it's easier for me than having to say (for example) "um, excuse me but could you find my clit, ever?" Basically, if I'm making no noise and my breathing is calm, that should be a clue to my partner that they haven't found my clit (or whatever hot spot they are aiming for.) It works vice versa, too - if I'm bucking my hips, breathing hard, and moaning loudly, my partner should easily be able to read that as "dear god don't stop don't ever fucking stop!" without me having to say so.

It's been my experience that men aren't very noisy - but they're breathing always gives them away. And very very few of them are capable of cumming with out at least a few grunts, groans, and moans. (Which, by the way, I love hearing - that's fucking hot.)

I don't know - I guess I just hope that the quiet women aren't being quiet because they think they have to, or because they think it's ladylike, or because they think noise is equated with porn stars and they see that as a bad thing. To me, being vocal during sex is liberating, and it has helped unleash some powerful feelings, emotions, lust, and best of all - literally Screaming Orgasms.

Let's make some noise, people.